“Apathy is the glove in which evil slips its hand.” -Bodie Thoene
Bullies pretty much suck. They are aggressive, they’re out to hurt in any way they can and in the adult world they think they can stop you in your tracks. Oh please, that’s so high school.
Too often, the adult world is full of bullies who think they can dominate. The “cool kids” hang out, watch out for each other and can often be loud and obnoxious (oh, and please don’t offend the prom queen). There is also the “quiet” group. This is the group that avoids confrontation and steers away from other crowds of kids. There are “independents” that get along with all groups; who can easily shift between the cool crowd and the quieter group. This may sound familiar and as bullying doesn’t just happen in adolescence, it also doesn’t disappear in adulthood.
In the work place, in cyberspace and at your child’s school there are instances where adults seem to just drift to one another. Adults form cliques too, which is not necessarily the problem. It’s essential to have a support system in your life, but when you infringe on someone else’s opinion by implementing yours, than it becomes an issue. It becomes an issue when someone states an opinion and people respond not in a conversational manner where you agree to disagree but simply to patronize.
In a world that teaches you to pick your battles, how do you choose?
Sometimes, you just know if you don’t say something you’ll regret it. This is how you know. It’s empowering and freeing to speak your mind. After all, this is a luxury many across the world are literally dying to achieve.
What if the words don’t come out right?
It happens to me all the time, but more often than not, I never regret taking a stand as opposed to letting things slide just because I’m afraid of coming off as a weak orator.
Are you afraid of repercussions?
Think about your worst case scenario. Will people think foolishly of you? Will you be ‘black-listed’? Well, they can try. People will form opinions, they will speak what they want but YOU know who you are. Your clients know your professional standards and your friends know you give every situation 120%.
What if you’ve made a mistake?
You’re only human and it will happen, probably a lot. It’s important to note when you’ve made a mistake – deal with it, learn from it, get over it and move on. There are too many things to get done to dwell on a single mistake. Recognize that you give a situation power. When you allow it to take over your system, you’ve giving it way to much power. Let it go and feel how empowering this notion can be in your life.
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